Oh crap. I went to a bar this past weekend, with my brother and some other friends. I'm not a bar person . . . haven't been to one in many, many years. Had all of 2 drinks, shot a game of pool, and enjoyed some dancing (with the girls!). Hubby found out I was there, and now he is absolutely convinced I was out on a "date." He is furious. Couldn't convince him otherwise, and finally told him he could believe what he wanted, but he would still be WRONG!
I am so not looking for anyone else. Why would I want to do that to myself? However, this has made me realize that I will eventually have to pursue a divorce. ("Divorce" is such an ugly word!). He is way too interested in where I am, what I am doing, and who I am with. I can't let him continue to have that power over me. After all, I have moved out, and have told him I don't plan on coming back! In my efforts to not "hurt" him anymore than necessary, I am hurting myself. Nope, this can't continue . . .
Gosh! How exhausting!
ReplyDeleteyou certainly should get to have fun!
My thoughts exactly! Thank you, Tom's Wife. Not thinking I did anything "wrong..."
ReplyDeleteI really do hope you're living YOUR life, rather than catering to the husband you've left after so long. Please tell me you've continued to have fun and have not allowed this man to violate your privacy as he has... if he must behave like a helpless child, perhaps his insurance will cover the cost of a Caregiver or nurse who will look in on him.
ReplyDeleteLilly, if the tables were turned and he had the opportunity, you'd best believe he'd be out basking in the attention of other women and flirting like an adolescent. Keep your courage and don't give up your hard-won freedom! He's very well-versed at playing "The Needy Man" and you're TOO accustomed to saving him from himself. Life is short and moves by quickly, as you've learned. Please don't waste any more of your time catering to someone who will never be satisfied, seems unwilling to learn to care for himself...!